Tuesday 6 November 2018

Stop treating yourself like shit.

Let me ask you a question. Say, if you are with a person who constantly ignores what you want to do. Whenever you go to him with your desires, he blows you away by telling you that you shouldn't do it, you can't do it and what not. Instead he forces you to do what he wants, in that particular moment with no regard whatsoever of what is good for you. He will tell you nothing but lies on why you shouldn't do stuff in your life you clearly know you should be doing. He constantly puts you down by always doubting your capability ultimately destroying your confidence. What will you do to such a person?
You will immediately run away, block him forever and never listen to him again, right? Yet this is what you are doing, to none other than yourself.

You know that you need to work that extra hour in office, you know you wanted to play guitar, you know you wanted to date that guy/girl, you know you should hit the gym yet you very conveniently refrain yourself from all this because you just can't pick yourself up to it. Lets talk about this internal resistance today which actually has no real value in your life, yet its there and controls most aspects of your life. What is it? and where does it come from? It comes from none other than you and arises out of laziness, low confidence, and fear.

Laziness

Laziness happens only due to achiever's mindset. Since you have always done things because you think they will give you some tangible benefit, you tend to be "lazy" about things that might not. You can see this, even the people who call themselves extremely lazy are highly active about stuff they care about, it is so because they have chosen to work for only those things which give them immense value. This is where we get wrong, everything adds value to our lives whether you know it or not. So, if we truly cared about the big picture instead of immediate return, we might as well learn to enjoy even trivial of tasks. Recognizng the true value and constantly reminding it to yourself can help you out of the bed.

Low confidence

There is nothing wrong with low confidence, it is just that we as a society have given way too much attention to confidence. Huge courses and seminars are organized so that you can display (fake) confidence even when it is not there. Confidence adds very less value in order to judge a person especially if its so easy to fake it. Also, there might as well be a case where knowledgeable person feels less confident something compared to an exuberant person. I know low confidence feels like shit but its also noteworthy that we probably too much stress about confidence. Confidence needs to be built within by getting out of comfort zone repeatedly, by actually doing what you are feeling less confident about. Try this, instead of feeling low about something you aren't sure about how to do, be curious. How do other people do it? How many ways can this be done? What are the consequences?

Fear

Watch this amazing video of Will Smith talking on fear. Go ahead, I am waiting!

So, the main point of Will is that fear lies. We all know that's damn true. Fearful thoughts are just an exaggeration of very limited information our brain has for something which we haven't even experienced yet. Here, we should not confuse fear with danger. Fear is a sophisticated mechanism in our body to cope with dangerous life and death situations. But rarely we come across such situations, isn't it? Then why are we using the same mechanism to handle petty situations in our daily lives?


Do NOT allow these barriers to come in your life. With more self awareness, it becomes easier to recognize them, accept them and then work on them. In this world, lets at least love ourselves and stop treating ourselves like shit.

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